21Jun

Child Sexual Abuse – Points To Know

 
 
 
Child Sexual Abuse
Child Sexual Abuse

I was four

He was forty

 

I told my mom
She said shhhh
You will spoil the family name
 
I was confused
I thought he was spoiling me, making me do dirty
But, I was spoiling the family name?
 
I dreaded the touch
I dreaded the man
 
Slowly and gradually I dreaded all the men
I hated my mom, i hated all women
 
I basically hated the whol
e damned world
And slowly I started to hate myself
 
I thought I would be better off dead
But I didn’t do it, coz I would spoil the family name again
 
To dim the pain, I cut, I cry, I spew venom within
 
But, I want my mom

 

to know I didn’t spoil the family name
The family spoiled me !!!!
20Feb

ADHD – Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.

ADHD - A Tormenting illness!
 
हिलता डुलता, दौड़ता भागता।
चलने से पहले वो दौड़ लगाता।
 
चंचल मन, और चंचल काया।
हर फ़ोटो में हिलता आया।
 
फैंका फाँकी, उठा पटकना।

 

लड़ते भिड़ते क्रोध में रहना।
 
ध्यान लगाना हो ना पाना।
पुस्तक पाठ समझ ना आना।
 
धीरे धीरे क्रोध बन गया अंदर की घबराहट।
मन विषाद सा, धूमिल, बंजर।
 
कोई कहता तूफान सा बर्बर।
कोई कहता dull है या duffer।
 
बरसे ताने उत्तर दक्षिण।
टीचर हो या मम्मी पापा, हर एक की आँख में किरकिर चुभता।
 
बेंत, हाथ, और क्लास निकाला।
सब बच्चों ने भी हंस डाला
 
रहना लगा अकेला फिर वोह।

 

मन था विचलित फिर भी हरपल।
 
नशा उठा कर मांगे शीतलपन।
जर्जर सा झरता हर पल ये मन।
 
सबको अच्छा लगता बचपन का चंचल।
पर अति चंचलता ना सुंदर बचपन।
 
रोग है मानो ये अतिचंचलता, करो निदान, इजाज कराओ।
बालक के हाथों को थामो, जाने ना दो गलत रास्ता।
 
ये रोग, सही हो सकता है।
धीरज धर करो संघर्ष अगर।
 
सही दिशा और दवा का मिश्रण।
हो सकता जीवन सुरगम।
11Feb

"And I said, I am fine"

 

He asked me
How are you?
And I said,I am fine

 

He just listened, smiled
And walked away…..
I wanted him to ask once more
He was my life, my love, my soulmate
He ought to have asked again
But he didn’t
And he walked away…..
He walked to his smiles, his joys, and his world
And left me in my dark morose world
My mom, my dad , my brother, my friends
All asked me
They all asked me once
How are you?
And I said, I am fine
I kept fighting
I kept struggling
With the demons within
The despair, the angst, the lows
My moods, my thoughts, my mind
One day my mirror asked me
How are you?
And I could hold no longer
And I said, I am not fine
I cried, I cried
The sorrow, the hurt, and the feelings of pain
All my tormenters asked me
How are you?
And all I could say was
I am not fine
The lows, the tides
My moods, my sorrow
They held me tight
And then I walked
I walked to help
…. and to healing
The doctor was nice
The doctor was kind
He just asked me
How are you?
And when I said I am fine
He smiled and held my hand
He held my hand and captivated my mind
He loosened the screws
And the sorrow could fly
And when it left me
It asked me once
How are you?
And this time I could really say, I am fine..
And now when I ask someone
How are you?
I gaze into their eyes
And often ask again
How are you??
1Feb

Delhi Mind Clinic - AXIS Bank Session on Stress Management in Corporates: 9th Jan 2018

14Jan

Dr. Sugandha Gupta from the Delhi Mind Clinic participating in a panel discussion about suicidal tendencies in changing lifestyles.

11Jan

Handling A Break Up
Handling A Break Up

Handling A Break Up- Break up- is often a commonly used term for relationship failure or end of a romantic relationship. Like all losses, break up is often followed by grief and feelings of losing a part of oneself. Break ups are often internally traumatic, and the sufferer is often left to make sense of the reminiscences and symbols of the relationship. Low mood, negative thoughts, feelings of betrayal, guilt, hopelessness, feelings of emptiness, preference for solitude are usually seen in such situation. Some other symptoms like ideas of self harm, suicide, inability to do daily usual activities, use of alcohol or other drugs, etc may also be seen in a subgroup of persons.

Here are some of the tips which may help you in handling the break up in a more healthy manner-

  1. Please remember that good and bad times are not permanent. Time is one of the biggest healer, hence please remember the age old adage that “this too shall pass“. Negative thoughts will come and seemingly sweep you like waves, however never forget that once you let the wave pass the feelings will reduce.
  2. Do not fall into the trap of alcohol, drugs or self medication. These behaviors will rather add to your agony and make the suffering last longer. Hence, please stay away from these behaviors especially when your mind is in a vulnerable phase.
  3. Please do not isolate yourselves. Rather make efforts to stay around people who care for you like your family and/or friends. Being around them will heal you faster.
  4. Talk about the hurt – do not hide your feelings in the deepest corners of yourselves. Share, talk, ventilate- having someone listen to you and provide a ear can be a great help. Do not distance these resources and support from self.
  5. Try to maintain your schedule- please try to maintain your schedule in terms of sleeping and waking timings, eating healthy and regularly, work routine, self care etc. However the key is not to enforce the routine upon yourselves, but rather helping the routine take you forward.
  6. Pursue a hobby or past time of your choice- often the pace of life and chaos does not permit us time to follow our passions. Take time out which is unoccupied now to do something you have always liked and wanted to do. Yes! This is the time.
  7. Do not fall for a rebound relationship- rebound relationships are often doomed, and you don’t want to set up another trap for yourself. Do you?
  8. Focus on the lesson learnt- every life event, howsoever seemingly negative has some message for us. If we take the learning from this failure and make ourselves a better being for the future self and relationships. May be we are on the right track.

Good luck!!!

From DelhiMindClinic.