COVID19 PANDEMIC – WHAT WE NEED TO TEACH OUR CHILDREN!
Dr. Sugandha Gupta, Senior Consultant psychiatrist,Delhi Mind Clinic.
The world is under the siege of a deadly virus and all humankind is struggling to stay safe. This is not the first time though, we have had the Spanish flu, the measles, smallpox in the past: but this is different! Never before has the world been so permeable, never before have the borders and boundaries been so transparent and never before has the world been so intricately interconnected.
.As the lockdown period extends and as we all hope for a period of normalcy, all that we are currently doing is to tide over the crisis by taking each day as it comes. We are trying to safeguard our children by keeping them indoors, keeping them engaged and mostly avoiding talking to them about the graver issues related to the pandemic.
However, we are also completely ignoring the fact that our children are going to grow older one day, taking care of their own families and that we might not be there to cocoon them at that time. Hence it is our duty as adults to share with them the experiences and learnings from the current crisis to help them evolve into adults who are resilient, responsible and hopeful. Bob Keeshan said, “Parents are the ultimate role models for children. Every word, movement and action has an effect. No other person or outside force has a greater influence on a child than a parent”
So what is it we need to write for them? Or what is it that we talk to them about?
1. Let’s talk to the children about Unity – explaining to the kids the concept of ” vasudhaiva kutumbkam” – the whole world is one!
This pandemic has brought the entire mankind together beyond caste, creed, race, nationality. And that is what our kids can revel and find strength in. Share with them the pictures from Italy, Spain, China, Germany as to how everyone is not just fighting the illness in a similar manner as us but how also other people from another end of the world are sharing their experiences to help other world citizens prepare better and stay safe.
This means that all the world citizens are our family and we should feel for them as such. Compassion, empathy and a sense of oneness is what is implied by “vasudhaiva kutumbkam”
Let us teach them gratitude and humbleness for what we are blessed with- the roof over our heads, the food on our plates, the good health we live with, the means to stay connected to our loved ones living far away and all that which is beyond material things.
We don’t need to preach them all this but only asking them to pray each morning and thanking the almighty for all his kindness, blessings and bounty will make them more humble and caring. and don’t we know the big hearts our children have?
Gratitude for what one has inspires confidence in oneself and hope in children.
THE JOY OF SHARING
Let us talk to our children how each individual is sharing what he or she can to help his brothers and sisters who are nor as blessed as they are.
Be it food
Be it masks
Or in any other capacity
Also, maybe they could contribute some amount from their own pocket money to truly understand the spirit of sharing
Let us help our kids understand how despite all countries struggling with the pandemic are still trying to help each other in whatever way they can. The Indian government lifted a ban on an important medication needed t fight COVID 19 and exported it to 30 other countries in this time of crisis.
Let us discuss with our kids and help them understand the pain and grief of those away from their families, those who are sick, those who have limited or no access to food and shelter in this pandemic. Next time you see the hoards of migrant laborers on bus stands and railway stations in the news, try not to blame them for the spread of illness, try not to call them liabilities in front of your children. Rather talk to them why we should feel sad at their plight, share with your children how the government, NGOs and religious Organizations are serving the needy in this hour of need by different means.
Empathy is a key emotion that equips an individual with gratitude, self-awareness and responsibility.
Remember, this pandemic may be fought with lockdowns, policies, international support but it will only be won with empathy, respect for all and kindness.
Impart in your children the skill of resilience by presenting yourself as an example to stay level headed and calm. Try not to let your own anxieties and worries about work, finances, health, relatives’ well being, children’s studies, daily chores, etc transmit onto your child. This may happen when you are irritable or seem quiet and withdrawn to your child. In these stressful times, it is important to consider your own well being as well. Organize for some time alone. Build this into your collaborative timetable. It could be reading, pampering or exercise. Looking after your well-being is paramount.
SERVING AND HONOR
The most important thing that our children should learn from this pandemic is the courage and valor with which our frontline workers are serving the country.
The health care staff – doctors, nurses, ward boys are all serving relentlessly despite the risks involved to serve their fellow beings, to discharge their duties selflessly.
The sanitation workers who keep our surroundings clean, the police personnel who maintain law and order on the roads even when the whole country sits safely inside locked doors are all examples of real heroes who put the society and their duty even before themselves or their lives or their families. Let our children learn the value of service and courage.
Compassion not just for fellow human beings but also for animals and birds. Share with your children the news articles and snaps of the NGOs and individuals ensuring that even the stray dogs, cows, and goats do not go hungry or thirsty in this period of lockdown. Help them keep a bowl of seeds and a pot of water for the birds or feed bread etc to the stray dogs in your colony or street.
We as humans evolved from a single-celled organism that lived in the sea. It was by a series of adaptations that man became such a complex and fine creature. So, in this manner, humans have been able to survive various calamities and stressful events. Hence, teaching our children that the current adaptations in our lifestyles – staying indoors, physical distancing, online studies are also going to be able to help us tide another crisis in our lives. Helping them understand that some of these changes might last longer than wanted and that resisting them might hamper our safety. This ability to adapt to different circumstances is a crucial life skill enabling survival and growth.
The skill to live in the moment. Thinking of what we are able to do each day- studying, reading storybooks, playing games, etc. Teaching kids to be mindful of oneself imparts calmness, allays anxiety, and fosters self-confidence. Yes, we are missing being in the mall, in the park, school, etc, but in the current moment I have my parents who are spending time with me, making lovely food, and above all caring for me. Learn to live in the moment and let the focus be on now!
INCULCATING HOPE AND COURAGE
Share with your children the previous epidemics of the Spanish flu, the bubonic plague, the measles, tuberculosis, and other illnesses which at that time had seemed invincible but over time mankind not just came out of the throes of those illnesses but also developed vaccines to completely eradicate some of them like polio, smallpox, and measles.
Talk to them how even today, many scientists, virologists, doctors, and research organizations are racing against time to find medications that work against this novel coronavirus and are diligently working on developing a vaccine to prevent this infection entirely.
Knowing about the past successes and also about current developments will instill hope and courage.
As the human population grows and so does human encroachment into wildlife areas like forests etc, the pandemics become more frequent as seen in this century – Ebola, Nipah, SARS, MERS, and now COVID.
Let us talk to our children about respecting nature and taking pleasure in nourishing it.
Share with your kids the pictures of the Himalayas being seen from Jalandhar or the sparkling waters of Yamuna and Ganga within days of withholding human interference during the lockdown.
Let their childhood relish nature’s bounty. This will motivate our next generation to take care of the planet and nature for their glorious future and not repeat the same mistakes as ours.
And that is why we need to help them see that silver lining in this dark grey cloud.
And if they sometimes still feel sad or lose hope, tell them –